how it works

Three stages, walked together — never sprung on anyone.

Your spouse is taught what's coming and gives consent before anything gets locked down. You are equipped before you are asked to hold anything. Each stage has its own pace, and any of them can be paused.

“The recovering spouse signs off on each item before it's applied.”

Stage one — inventory

Name every device in the home.

Phones, laptops, tablets, gaming consoles, smart TVs, the router itself. The two of you work through the inventory lesson — usually one evening, at your own pace — and write them all down.

You finish the inventory lesson with a written list, an honest picture, and no surprises waiting later.

Stage two — guided lockdown

Taught first. Then applied — with consent.

Before any setting changes, both spouses walk through exactly what's coming: what each tool does, what stays in the recovering spouse's name, what the accountability partner will and won't be looking at. The recovering spouse signs off on each item before it's applied.

Then the locks go in. Filtering on the home internet, screen-time and content restrictions on each device, accountability software set up the way it actually works.

Stage three — cadence

Keep it alive. Revisit it. Be able to leave it.

The arrangement only works if it's tended. We give you a rhythm:

Weekly check-in.: A short, structured conversation. The program gives you the script.
Monthly review.: Walk through what's still working, what's changed, what needs adjusting.
90-day re-consent.: Your spouse formally re-affirms (or revises) every lock. Standing consent is not current consent.
Exit door.: If the arrangement needs to end — for any reason — there is a defined, dignified way to dismantle it.

start with stage one

Ready to start with the inventory?

The inventory is one lesson. From there, you and your spouse decide together what comes next.

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